National Singles Awareness Day – Time To Celebrate And Love Yourself!

Being single. What thoughts enter your head when you hear this phrase? Pity? Fear? Horror? I am going to tell you why being single is certainly not a drag! It can be one of the most fun, liberating and invigorating times of your life! The 11th of November it is National Singles Awareness Day and I am going to show you that it is definitely time to celebrate being single, with tips on how to Love Yourself and Love being single!

YOU ARE FABULOUS JUST AS YOU ARE!

The absolutely stunning thing about being comfortable being single, is the realisation that you do not need a partner to “complete” you. You, as an individual, are complete. Once you acknowledge this and realise this, the world is your oyster. Anything is possible. You do not need to rely on someone else to determine whether you feel happy. You can do that on your own. This is incredibly important for your sense of self!

You are fabulous just as you are

THE JOYS OF INDEPENDENCE

One of the perks of being single is the fact that you have the freedom to do exactly what you want, whenever you want. You have the perfect opportunities to make all of your decisions. I am not saying that having a partner in your life is not important. Making complex decisions can at times be easier with someone. But there is certainly a feeling of inner strength and power when you can make life changing decisions on your own. Grab this opportunity and enjoy it!

BEING ALONE DOES NOT HAVE TO MEAN LONELY

Just because you are single, does not automatically mean that you have to be lonely. You still have family and friends who you can contact and connect with. These people are incredibly important, whether you are in a relationship or not. A partner should never have the ability to isolate you from your loved and treasured ones. Never!

The wonderful thing about being single, is that spending time on your own you start to learn and discover things about yourself. For example, what interests do you have, what hobbies you would like to pursue – things that you were not necessarily able to do when you were in a relationship.

There is nothing more liberating than being able to truly get to know yourself and, therefore, be completely comfortable with who you are. It is very empowering!

Alone does not mean lonely

LOVE YOURSELF!

Just because you are not in a relationship, does not mean that no one loves you. And if you think that no one does, well, it is time to take a long look in the mirror! I know it sounds clichéd, but honestly, learn to Love Yourself! This will open so many doors to happiness, and close many doors to toxic relationships. Love and respect yourself. If you don’t, believe me, no one else will.

It is such a great feeling reaching a stage when you are no longer willing to put up with someone else’s BS! And that change certainly happens when you know who you are, and, when you are comfortable with you are. It is a kick ass feeling!

SINGLE – BY CHOICE

You will probably notice that when you feel confident and happy, you will automatically start attracting potential partners. This is the moment that you have been waiting for. You are in the position of choosing either to be single, or to pursue a relationship. Either way, you know that you are not going to settle for just anyone. This person is going to have to be incredibly special to be part of your life. Never settle for second best. You are worth so much more!

Single by choice

CHILLED – SIMILAR AS TO HOW CHAMPAGNE SHOULD BE SERVED

A quality which I find extremely attractive in someone is when they are chilled, relaxed and laid back. Please do not misunderstand me, I love the fact that my partner has an ambitious and determined character too. But, when meeting someone for the first time, a chilled attitude says to me that the person is not desperate. They are obviously comfortable being on their own, and will take all the necessary time to get to know someone before taking any drastic steps.

So pop open a bottle of that bubbly, and celebrate your independence!

SINGLES HAVE MORE SEX!

I know, I know! Big mistake if you, like me, thought that singles were curled up on a couch wrapped up under some knitted blanket which they received from their granny the previous Christmas.

But, singles are officially having more sex than the likes of us who are in relationships or married! Interestingly enough, analyzing survey data collected from approximately 26,000 people, researches found that the average person now has sex nine times less per year in comparison to the early 90s. Not all groups followed the same path though – the drop in having sex was prevalent in people who were married or were divorced. In comparison, however, singles are now having more sex than ever!

Singles have more sex

IT’S A MYTH – BEING MARRIED IS NOT NECESSARILY HEALTHIER FOR YOUR WELL BEING!

Being married, according to social scientists, makes us become healthier as opposed to when we are single! I think somebody has been telling us a few pork pies, because this is not necessarily the case at all. Okay, so I am an exception to the rule. I have become a lot healthier since I declared the words “I do” – but when you see my partner, you will completely understand why. A real FOX! That’s right – F.O.X!

Anyway, back to another interesting study, on “How your body reacts when you fall in love“, in which researchers followed more than 79,000 U.S. women between the ages of 50 and 79 over a three-year period, monitoring whether they got into a serious relationship, got married, got divorced, got separated or stayed single.

In addition to this, the women were subject to repeated physical measurements of waist size and body mass index (BMI). Blood pressure was taken and they were asked about their smoking, drinking and exercise habits.

With only one exception, ONE, every significant finding was in favour of women who either remained single, or got divorced instead of staying married. So, women who stayed single tended to maintain a stable healthy weight, exercised regularly and ate a healthy diet. The one exception? Women who divorced, generally took up smoking, interestingly enough.

single and healthy

EMBRACE YOUR SINGLENESS

For all of the singles out there, you have reason to celebrate and embrace being single! There are so many positive factors to being alone. Getting to know yourself, and learning to be comfortable with your own company is a life-changer. It gives you choice. And wise, life-changing decisions can be made when you know who you are.

You can establish the most fantastic friendships, build stronger family bonds and it enables you to concentrate on the things that are important to you.

Everything else will fall into place afterwards. Learn to Love Yourself. You will attract the partner who will deserve you and everything that you have to offer. They had better be very VERY special!

I will be raising my glass to you all on the 11th November.

RENÉE

 

16 Replies to “National Singles Awareness Day – Time To Celebrate And Love Yourself!”

  1. Although it is great to have a family, there are times when you yearn for that type of independence that only comes from being single. The best part is only having yourself to answer to, not having to spend time cooking each day for a large family, not having to worry about anything except yourself and best of all you can eat what you want too and not what other people want to.

    There are definitely benefits to both, but I am sure there is nobody out there who is in a relationship who doesn’t from time to time yearn for their independence.

    1. Hello Michel,

      Thank you so much for your comments.  You are absolutely right, there are certainly pros and cons to both – being in a loving relationship, and have the ultimate independence from being single.

      Kind regards,

      Renée

  2. Being single is something most people are scared of and it’s not meant to be like that.  There are so many people who are into some abusive or narcissistic relationship, but because of the fear or being single or not wanting to be looked down upon by the society, they tend to remain in such relationship which isn’t good for their health and sanity. I stand on the ground that being single isn’t bad. It’s just a time for anyone to get their things together before making any move. Nice post.

    1. Thank you for your comments Benson, and you have honestly hit the nail on the head.  Fear of being alone, despite the abuse that some people, devastatingly enough, endure.  There is such power in independence.  

  3. I’m actually glad that I’m not married like my brother, he and his wife seem to argue a lot and aren’t very happy. I enjoy being single and the biggest reason is the freedom. I love living alone and being able to just go wherever I want whenever I want without having to ask anyone or get their opinions on it. As far as sex goes I do enjoy having it with different people, I’m not a fan of staying attached to one individual. As a single I’m happier and more free to do the things I like without judgement.

    1. I am absolutely delighted for you!  I am glad that you have embraced being single so positively!  Thank you for visiting the site and for your comments.  Happy Singles Day

  4. Hello there, this is a very wonderful topic and I am glad to have come across it. Being single can be fun as much as being in a relationship can be too, all that is to be done is for the individual to accept who they are and move from the past. I am a single mom and I am proud because the relationship I was in isn’t the one I want my kid to grow in. So today I celebrate myself and I am excited i made this decision some time ago. Cheers 

    1. Hello Bella,

      I absolutely salute you and raise my glass to you!  What a strong, courageous and wonderful woman and mother you are!

      Thank you so much for visiting Love Yourself and for leaving your very inspiring comment;

      Kindest regards,

      Renée

  5. Hello Renée! Your article reminds me of a song by Natasha Bedingfield called ‘Single’. It was a great pleasure to read it, as usual. I think that being single is extremely classy. Winona Ryder used to say that in a cult movie called ‘Reality Bites’. I am absolutely not surprised to read that singles have more sex than couples. The irony! The cobbler’s children go barefoot! And I am also relieved that singles do not live less longer than couples! All that BS is exhausting! 

    1. Hello dear Purdey!

      Oh my, I had forgotten about that great hit of Natasha Beddingfield – thanks to you I will have that tune in my head for the rest of the day!  Thank you!  The cobbler’s children go barefoot!  What a fabulous saying – and so true!  Being single was great at the time, but I must admit I love being in love.

  6. Being a single is something to jubilate about. I’m a single. So, if I had a girlfriend and she sees me with another girl, she would be jealous and suspicious (even though I don’t have an affair with the other girl), for God sake we are just friends. Lol.

    For me, being single does not mean more sex. as a matter of fact, I must not have sex until after my marriage. I’m a man of principle; it’s against my faith!

    1. Hello Vwegbah

      Thank you so much for your comments.  Yes, being in a relationship can be very complex, especially if your partner is jealous and not trusting!

      I completely respect and admire your beliefs – I am sure that lady that you are going to marry is going to be a very lucky lady!

      Kindest regards,

      Renée

  7. Hi, Renee,

    I always thought I would be married by 30 and have one child at least. My reality is I’m almost 32 now and don’t even have a partner. There are times when I’m cool with that, but there are others where it sucks. Like others have mentioned above, one of our fears is being lonely. I hate the idea of growing old and not having someone in my life. I know my family and friends are there for me, but it’s not the same thing.

    We’ll see what happens.

    Thanks for sharing.

    1. Hello dear Enrique!

      Life is strange, isn’t it! We have all these plans worked out, achievements and goals that have to be accomplished by a certain date – and life goes “no, no, no – I have something else planned for you!”

      Enrique, you are still fabulously young, and I am convinced you will definitely meet the person of your dreams. In the mean time, have fun and enjoy your fabulous independence;

      Thank you so much for visiting the site and for your comments,

      Hope to see you again soon

      Renée

  8. Being single can be a lonely thing sometimes. The heart is a lonely hunter some times and then there are days that one finds great comfort in being single. Good advise here for singles here. There are joys of being single and there are times where advise here to love yourself is important to remember. Can be depressing if your expectations are high on relationships. So will take the advise and embrace being single and get out there and get to know myself. Thanks for bring the attention to singles and dedicating this website for those of us who are single.

    1. Dearest Dan

      Believe me Dan, I can be in a huge crowd, and still feel desperately lonely at times. We all go through it whether we are in a relationship or not. But do not despair, please. I was 44 when I met the person I knew I was going to spend the rest of my life with. Thank you so much for taking the time to read the article and for your comments.

      I hope to see you here soon again,
      Renée

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