Being single. What thoughts enter your head when you hear this phrase? Pity? Fear? Horror? I am going to tell you why being single is certainly not a drag! It can be one of the most fun, liberating and invigorating times of your life! The 11th of November it is National Singles Awareness Day and I am going to show you that it is definitely time to celebrate being single, with tips on how to Love Yourself and Love being single!
YOU ARE FABULOUS JUST AS YOU ARE!
The absolutely stunning thing about being comfortable being single, is the realisation that you do not need a partner to “complete” you. You, as an individual, are complete. Once you acknowledge this and realise this, the world is your oyster. Anything is possible. You do not need to rely on someone else to determine whether you feel happy. You can do that on your own. This is incredibly important for your sense of self!
THE JOYS OF INDEPENDENCE
One of the perks of being single is the fact that you have the freedom to do exactly what you want, whenever you want. You have the perfect opportunities to make all of your decisions. I am not saying that having a partner in your life is not important. Making complex decisions can at times be easier with someone. But there is certainly a feeling of inner strength and power when you can make life changing decisions on your own. Grab this opportunity and enjoy it!
BEING ALONE DOES NOT HAVE TO MEAN LONELY
Just because you are single, does not automatically mean that you have to be lonely. You still have family and friends who you can contact and connect with. These people are incredibly important, whether you are in a relationship or not. A partner should never have the ability to isolate you from your loved and treasured ones. Never!
The wonderful thing about being single, is that spending time on your own you start to learn and discover things about yourself. For example, what interests do you have, what hobbies you would like to pursue – things that you were not necessarily able to do when you were in a relationship.
There is nothing more liberating than being able to truly get to know yourself and, therefore, be completely comfortable with who you are. It is very empowering!
Just because you are not in a relationship, does not mean that no one loves you. And if you think that no one does, well, it is time to take a long look in the mirror! I know it sounds clichéd, but honestly, learn to Love Yourself! This will open so many doors to happiness, and close many doors to toxic relationships. Love and respect yourself. If you don’t, believe me, no one else will.
It is such a great feeling reaching a stage when you are no longer willing to put up with someone else’s BS! And that change certainly happens when you know who you are, and, when you are comfortable with you are. It is a kick ass feeling!
SINGLE – BY CHOICE
You will probably notice that when you feel confident and happy, you will automatically start attracting potential partners. This is the moment that you have been waiting for. You are in the position of choosing either to be single, or to pursue a relationship. Either way, you know that you are not going to settle for just anyone. This person is going to have to be incredibly special to be part of your life. Never settle for second best. You are worth so much more!
CHILLED – SIMILAR AS TO HOW CHAMPAGNE SHOULD BE SERVED
A quality which I find extremely attractive in someone is when they are chilled, relaxed and laid back. Please do not misunderstand me, I love the fact that my partner has an ambitious and determined character too. But, when meeting someone for the first time, a chilled attitude says to me that the person is not desperate. They are obviously comfortable being on their own, and will take all the necessary time to get to know someone before taking any drastic steps.
So pop open a bottle of that bubbly, and celebrate your independence!
SINGLES HAVE MORE SEX!
I know, I know! Big mistake if you, like me, thought that singles were curled up on a couch wrapped up under some knitted blanket which they received from their granny the previous Christmas.
But, singles are officially having more sex than the likes of us who are in relationships or married! Interestingly enough, analyzing survey data collected from approximately 26,000 people, researches found that the average person now has sex nine times less per year in comparison to the early 90s. Not all groups followed the same path though – the drop in having sex was prevalent in people who were married or were divorced. In comparison, however, singles are now having more sex than ever!
IT’S A MYTH – BEING MARRIED IS NOT NECESSARILY HEALTHIER FOR YOUR WELL BEING!
Being married, according to social scientists, makes us become healthier as opposed to when we are single! I think somebody has been telling us a few pork pies, because this is not necessarily the case at all. Okay, so I am an exception to the rule. I have become a lot healthier since I declared the words “I do” – but when you see my partner, you will completely understand why. A real FOX! That’s right – F.O.X!
Anyway, back to another interesting study, on “How your body reacts when you fall in love“, in which researchers followed more than 79,000 U.S. women between the ages of 50 and 79 over a three-year period, monitoring whether they got into a serious relationship, got married, got divorced, got separated or stayed single.
In addition to this, the women were subject to repeated physical measurements of waist size and body mass index (BMI). Blood pressure was taken and they were asked about their smoking, drinking and exercise habits.
With only one exception, ONE, every significant finding was in favour of women who either remained single, or got divorced instead of staying married. So, women who stayed single tended to maintain a stable healthy weight, exercised regularly and ate a healthy diet. The one exception? Women who divorced, generally took up smoking, interestingly enough.
EMBRACE YOUR SINGLENESS
For all of the singles out there, you have reason to celebrate and embrace being single! There are so many positive factors to being alone. Getting to know yourself, and learning to be comfortable with your own company is a life-changer. It gives you choice. And wise, life-changing decisions can be made when you know who you are.
You can establish the most fantastic friendships, build stronger family bonds and it enables you to concentrate on the things that are important to you.
Everything else will fall into place afterwards. Learn to Love Yourself. You will attract the partner who will deserve you and everything that you have to offer. They had better be very VERY special!
I will be raising my glass to you all on the 11th November.